When we have system sight,
we think that the realistic way to deal with our relationship with the “other”
is to change the pattern of relationship we have fallen into.
In this case, this means infusing Love into Power without Love.

11. Love as the disrupter
We have seen the self-reinforcing pattern of
Power without Love –
how being separate from the “other”
reinforces our experience of their being different from us;
and experiencing them as being different from us
reinforces our staying apart,
and round and round it goes.
Love needs to be the disrupter of this cycle.
Separateness needs to be counterbalanced with connectedness.
We need to connect with the “other”
in ongoing and mutually meaningful ways –
building housing together,
taking meals together,
plowing fields together,
writing and producing plays together,
working on community projects together.
Endless possibilities of connecting in ongoing and
mutually meaningful ways.

12. For Love also has its cycle.
The two components of Love are
connectedness – partnering together in common
enterprise –
and commonality – experiencing our fundamental
similarity with the “other.”
Each component reinforces the other –
partnering – working together with the “other” –
increases the likelihood of experiencing our commonality;
and experiencing our commonality supports
further partnering,
and on its goes.
So, is there hope?